> I have been bringing up the issue almost everyday and have said that it isn’t working for me. I don't know how to make her understand.

What do you mean make her understand? Unless you're ranting to her in Cantonese, she obviously heard and understood your words and the meaning behind them. The real issue is that she understands but doesn't care and there's no way you can force her to start caring.

> Even though she tells me she loves me and wants to be with me her actions say otherwise.

When someone says one thing and does the opposite, it makes them a liar. Words can deceive but actions cannot. Actions speak louder than words.

> she says she's having the time of her life right now and has even mentioned she is a "free bird." I even brought up how she is acting like she's single. I say this because when she goes out to the club she flirts with other girls and has even gotten some of their numbers.

So in her mind, she's broken up with you. You're no longer together but she wont give you the common courtesy of saying so. Don't be surprised to learn that the nights she comes home very late or not at all are spent intimately with other women. I think it's high time that you move on as well.