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Therisemfear t1_j6p3idl wrote

You need to break up with her. If you don't, you are wasting both of your time.

That said, you can still support her as a friend even after breaking up.

It was unhealthy that she became dependent on you in the relationship. Though it was not necessarily her fault as you said she had a rough family. But you need to let her be aware that she is becoming dependent and it's not healthy.

How is the situation with the rent? Does she share the rent with you or is she financially dependent?

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ThrowRA155590 OP t1_j6p5ngb wrote

Hi and thanks for the advice. Yes we share rent. I pay the majority as I earn more money though. That again was decision. She wanted to pay 50 50 but I knew it would result in very little money for her to have after bills

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Therisemfear t1_j6pbd1o wrote

No prob. Here I'm assuming that you still care about her as a person despite no longer having romantic feelings.

As others said, you need to prioritize your own well-being. Though, you can make the break-up as amicable as it can and help her get through the situation.

The most important thing is her living condition. You can help her with apartment hunting. Since she is financially independent, there might be places that she can afford around there.

Encourage her to expand her social circle, or take up hobbies and have online friends if she's having trouble with irl social interactions.

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