Submitted by Ok_Tumbleweed7912 t3_10pptpo in relationship_advice
Ok_Tumbleweed7912 OP t1_j6lujlr wrote
Reply to comment by Curious-Duck in How do I (f29) enforce boundaries with my husband (m25)? by Ok_Tumbleweed7912
Thank you for the understanding and thoughtful reply.
Curious-Duck t1_j6luvhc wrote
You’re welcome, make sure he’s aware of your boundary and ALWAYS pull through with the consequence- as a teacher I am telling you this is extremely important.
He swears aggressively- stay overnight at a friends. Doesn’t matter how much he apologizes and begs for you to stay, if you give in then he knows he can continue that behaviour.
Just be calm “I have told you my boundary, you crossed the line- I’m going to be staying away tonight and I’ll be back tomorrow to discuss this”.
It would be tough but I doubt you’d have to do this more than 1-2 times before it’s a very, very real boundary that he won’t cross again.
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