Should we break up or work on it? 19F 18M Been together for 6 months

Submitted by queenbee_2603 t3_10phqsq in relationship_advice

Should we break up or work on it?

Hi I am a 19F dating a 18M, I had met him during a graduation party last year and we hit it off pretty good. Although I was already in a relationship I couldn’t pursue it any further. But I could never get him out of my head, I had fallen in love with him way too hard. We always wanted to see each other all the time and we slowly became very physical with eachother. So I ended things with my relationship because 1 he was very toxic and 2 I didn’t love him like he loved me and I wanted him to find someone that was better for him. Okay fast forward to now, my boyfriend lives with me in my apartment, since we started dating in late July, he was only suppose to stay for a couple weeks which turned to a couple months. I don’t know how to tell him I want my space back. On top of that he won’t have sex with me anymore let alone hug or kiss me. He makes me feel disgusted with myself by him calling my friends hot or even saying he has to reject so many girls because he’s in a relationship. But if he wasn’t he would have dated them. I love him so much that if I even try to talk to him about any of this he gets mad and makes fun of me and I just can’t handle it. I don’t know what to do and everyone is telling me to break up with him but I can’t.. I wanna fix our relationship

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jordanmmac1995 t1_j6khu9k wrote

Fuck this guy. Break up with him. Kick him to the curb.

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hisimpendingbaldness t1_j6ki7bt wrote

It takes two to fix, he ain't participating.

Are we sure the first one was the toxic relationship?

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queenbee_2603 OP t1_j6kihwy wrote

The first one would touch me without permission and towards the end of our relationship he made fake accounts to attack me and make me go to him. To which he admitted it and I left.

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McSuzy t1_j6kjxll wrote

You need to break up and then stop dating people. You are nowhere near ready to make good choices for yourself

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