Kinda feel as tho if the genders were swapped or if it was two dudes the comments would be different

You were having an argument, he opted to leave the situation and let things cool, you then assaulted him and he responded in kind.

If you aren't gonna be able to take someone in a physical fight then don't try to physically fight.

Hopefully you guys can sit down, apologize and work thru this. Come up with healthy ways to deal with these arguments and if that means he has to go for a drive or a run or whatever then let him.