triaxisman t1_j6mrs46 wrote
It’s not wrong to “wingman” if he makes it clear he’s taken, and he’s honest about doing it. Hard to trust him now since he lied. And his excuse doesn’t even make sense, he lied to you so you wouldn’t worry? Lying just increases worry and distrust, it doesn’t solve anything. If he really wasn’t doing anything wrong there shouldn’t be a need to lie about it.
Baddecisionsbkclb t1_j6nlqd6 wrote
Agree. It sounds like OP's bf wants to chat up hot women and relive his single days, using wingman status as an excuse for the ego boost. He may have zero intentions of cheating but putting himself in those kinds of situations is using questionable judgment. (I would argue lots of people don't intend to cheat but their bad choices make it easier.) And lying about it, deleting texts? He better grovel like hell and put in the work in required to regain lost trust. OP, I'd be super hurt and I think you're honestly being super chill (maybe too chill.) What if the situations were reversed and you planned to hang out with a bunch of hot guys? Bet he wouldn't be ok with it
CoachJW t1_j6oi62n wrote
It’s fishy to wingman for someone with a very recent history of infidelity. Were I in OP’s shoes, I’d be very concerned over what went down that night and would need much better defined boundaries going forward we’re I to trust him.
There is no excuse for the lying nor even really for going to the girls house or for deleting the texts. He couldn’t be more suspicious.
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