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DM-YOUR-CLEAVAGE t1_j6gdpd4 wrote

You'd be assuming right I'd say. Prepare to be love bombed when that inevitably falls through and he's suddenly lonely again

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[deleted] OP t1_j6gdvai wrote

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DM-YOUR-CLEAVAGE t1_j6gebve wrote

Well that's my point - they'll be off again eventually. And he'll come back to you when that happens if you let him

I wouldn't though as clearly he's not worth your time

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[deleted] OP t1_j6gemiu wrote

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DM-YOUR-CLEAVAGE t1_j6gf07v wrote

Of course! Don't fall into the sunk cost mindset- you've already found more energy won't fix it. I'd just cut your losses and find someone actually worthy of your time and attention

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kittenwithawhip19 t1_j6gf6ty wrote

It's not that she has something you don't. This is on him and his shitty behavior. He likely does the same BS to her and she just tolerates it.

Extricate yourself from the situation

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[deleted] OP t1_j6ghbm4 wrote

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kittenwithawhip19 t1_j6ghyoz wrote

Just don't get down on yourself is all I'm saying. You deserve alot more. You deserve someone that is sure about you. That knows what they want. To love you the way you love them.

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Flat_Lengthiness_319 t1_j6gdv8a wrote

Cut contact, he’s keeping you as his backup. Even if he did someday leave his partner and offer you everything he’d just find another backup to have behind your back. He’s just one of those selfish, manipulative, lying people.

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[deleted] OP t1_j6gh0ca wrote

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Jmm1272 t1_j6go914 wrote

He had already picked her. He was seeing you a few times a month and her much more.

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Flat_Lengthiness_319 t1_j6ikbse wrote

She isn’t the problem he is. If she didn’t exist he’d find another way to hurt you.

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Jmm1272 t1_j6go1o8 wrote

Here’s the major red flag 🚩 He said he wished it didn’t have to be this way? IT DOESNT! It is this way because he DOES want it to be this way! It is his choice for it to be this way. Just hope you are clear about that.

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[deleted] OP t1_j6gobik wrote

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Jmm1272 t1_j6gojz9 wrote

Exactly he does want it to be this way that’s why he chose to do it, keep telling yourself that until you believe it

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Kooky_Independent656 t1_j6geddt wrote

He's a narcissist...when his girlfriend is not around he reaches out to you. He needs constant attention. Block him. Cut contact with him. Be happy that you are not the girlfriend and he's talking to a side piece.

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Chaoticgood790 t1_j6gfjug wrote

I mean at some point you have to get some self esteem here. You’re keeping contact with a guy that picks you up and discards you at will. You need to remind yourself that this guy is not interested. You feed his ego until he finds someone he actually wants

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[deleted] OP t1_j6gfqr3 wrote

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Chaoticgood790 t1_j6gidbc wrote

Just remind yourself it’s not real. Or it’s real for that moment and then those moments pass. He’s interested while in between others. That’s not long term.

I wouldn’t try to understand it. Just try to understand how it makes you feel

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Jmm1272 t1_j6goe8v wrote

If he was interested he would not have pushed you away. You have to look at his actions and not his words

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