I(23m) found out my girlfriend(24f) was flirting with another guy, whom she had met few years ago, and had told me she had a crush long time back

Submitted by asdfghjklllllll15 t3_10o2afd in relationship_advice

We both are in long distance, after meeting about 4 months. When she came back, I saw the notification from that guy. At first she refused he’s not the same guy. But I was doubtful, because of the way she reacted. But later when I checked her phone, I found he was the same guy. The texts were flirty, and it was that she was missing him, wanted to hug him, and telling him “remember that night”. I have no idea what happened that night. When I confronted her, she lied it was nothing and she’s was just playing with him. But when told I read the text, she admitted and that she was sorry. She told she was feeling lonely, and got carried away when he texted him first after a long time. I accepted that time and let it go. But still after a month, I can’t get over it still. We are again in long distance, and I still get worried that is she talking to him again? Am I enough or not.

What should I do, I am scared again if I tell her again in long distance, and she’ll get mad for doubting,

Ps: I love her a lot and she says and shows also (most of times), and it’s not some random temporary thing, we both discuss so much about our future.

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Not-The-AlQaeda t1_j6c88y7 wrote

You already know the answer. You're just finding it hard to accept it. I'll just say that you should go with your gut. Personally, I'm in an LDR, and I knownI wouldn't continue it if my SO did this.

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asdfghjklllllll15 OP t1_j6cab7v wrote

Yeah, fair. My gut says give her one more chance, and see where it goes.

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UKNZ007Tubbs t1_j6ceucg wrote

No more chances.

She used several already - lying, gaslighting, emotional cheating, and based on her text’s probably physical cheating.

Just end it and find someone who will not cheat.

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eyecicey t1_j6cp9ra wrote

Yeah your gut is going to get you into a world of hurt

LDR requires 100% trust in a partner and that is lost now.

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