little_owl211 t1_j6mpp7z wrote on January 31, 2023 at 12:49 PM

Bro I get you're upset but you sound super selfish rn. Celebrate some other time! Valentine's days is just a random ass date, your gf needs your support during this time and you are upset that you can't do what YOU want? Sorry but it feels like you are more interested in yourself rather than actually being there for your gf and love her the way she needs you to.

If you want a day to show off your love cool, I think that can be sweet, just sit with her and pick a date.

Oh and your mom and sister are very rude but they have a point, this memory won't disappear, it's quite traumatic and it doesn't seem like you can handle it. Doesn't mean you can't improve tho, maybe you should ask yourself why it's so important to you?

Sensitive-Honey t1_j6mqa4p wrote on January 31, 2023 at 12:54 PM

came here to say this. valentine’s day is just a set day for all the shops to sell their shit by basically, when you’re in love as an adult valentine’s day is just like another day because it’s supposed to feel that way everyday (for the most part) OP don’t make this about anything other than supporting your gf on that day and she will appreciate it way more than you trying to make a day of it, or making her feel guilty about it. bring it up to her that you want to make your own special valentine’s day that’s way further away from that date, it seems super romantic and thoughtful since you know her troubles with that date.