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IllVast4743 t1_j6nxwnt wrote

Man brother she has you on lock. Try and find your backbone and take back some control. She is never going to really be back with you , if you are a weakling. You are playing the pick me dance, kissing her butt. Stop that! It never works, it only serves to reinforce her opinion that you are spineless and will be waiting around to take her when she is done torturing you. Find your spine again and move on already.

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ThrowraImportant_ OP t1_j6o3qno wrote

Yikes! It’s tough because your right. I have tried to take some power back in this dynamic. I’ve told her that I also don’t know if it’s going to work out with her. That unless she works on certain behaviors I don’t want to get back with that person. But overall I still have been there for her and it could be seen as kissing her butt. When ever I put distance between us in any way she responds by chasing me,and I let her back in.

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