Love-tea t1_j6ohfsp wrote
Firstly you didn’t just come across the conversation you were looking through her phone. Which is a huge issue with privacy. You have no right to read her conversations.
Secondly I can see how you are trying to make this a trust issue because her crush had a gf at the time. But she didn’t tell her crush she just admitted to her friend that when he touched her face applying glitter she liked it. This does not make her untrustworthy. It actually makes her very trustworthy because she clearly didn’t act on how she felt.
And thirdly this is not traumatising. Please look that word up and learn what it actually means. This is you being insecure for absolutely no reason. You may want to work on this element of your personality otherwise being in a relationship is going to be very hard for you
Personal_Change_7949 OP t1_j6oiy9m wrote
Thank you so much. This helped a lot. First thing tomorrow morning I'm going to apologise to her for checking her phone. And..it is already being hard for me to maintain a healthy relationship. I really dont want to, but i get riled up at the slighest thing. I really want to work on this but have no idea how to. Can you maybe give some advice on that too? And thanks again.....your answer helped a lotttt
KitPipin t1_j6ojufg wrote
Oh my gooood.
You checked her phone?
That was so not "came across".
Jezuz, you went so far as to violate her privacy.
Why is this not in the post? Oh, maan.
Pathetic.
Personal_Change_7949 OP t1_j6ok5nq wrote
She did check mine a month before that so...
KitPipin t1_j6okd24 wrote
Given your previous post, I'd boot you out, not check shit.
Again, going through someone's stuff is not "come across".
Personal_Change_7949 OP t1_j6oks55 wrote
I'm sorry....what does boot you out mean?
KitPipin t1_j6okynn wrote
Break up? Say goodbye? Throw away? Send back to your nanny?
Pick any. Or use Google, ffs.
Personal_Change_7949 OP t1_j6ol3nj wrote
Why on earth would she break up with me over my previous post?????????
KitPipin t1_j6olo33 wrote
No, over your behaviour as per se.
You are not ready to stay committed to a single porn genre let alone to a mature long-term relationship.
Geez.
Personal_Change_7949 OP t1_j6olxxw wrote
How does me thinking seriously about my future and hers make me not ready for committment?
KitPipin t1_j6omgpo wrote
You had no business thinking about your girlfriend's future when it involved her compromising on her education.
Especially only 4 months in.
Just like here - keep your nose out of her "incidents".
God forbid she shat in the same public toilet as her crush. Gosh, what an incident of all incidents would that be.
Personal_Change_7949 OP t1_j6omuq8 wrote
COMPROMISING????????
KitPipin t1_j6oob4b wrote
And what that supposed to mean?
That was yet another of your "incidents" and you were already bitching and moaning about her lack of interest regarding ... distance between two colleges?
Seriously? "Mah beliefs were shaken". And then crying in the comments that she's not thinking about you together. All this while expecting what exactly from her? Moving closer to your college? Or what? Was this drama for drama fake crying?
Bruh.
Are you in drama class?
Love-tea t1_j6p4q01 wrote
I’m glad you can see where you have gone wrong. That’s a good starting point. I’m also glad I could help even a small amount.
In getting help, go to therapy. Figure out why you think the way you do. Figure out why things rile you up. Once you have figured out the why you will be able to work on staying calm and not over thinking things.
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