Keeping relationship strong with toddler . M26 & F25

Submitted by Careful_Woodpecker11 t3_10qeeeg in relationship_advice

Hello all , I’ve been with my fiancé for 7 years & we have a toddler who 18month. I’m 26 she’s 25. She has 2 WFH jobs & takes care of the baby. She is basically with him 24/7. I work hybrid 3 days in office the rest WFM. The days I’m home I try my best to be with him so she can breath the days i’m in office I come home & do the same. The baby doesn’t play with toy for to long he gets bored & move on. I’ve tired all type of toys remote cars, drawing, toy for brain stimulation but nothing seem to keep his interest he would rather run around & do his own thing. When we ignore him & try to watch a show together he starts to cry wanting attention. This really annoys her & sometimes cries & shut down.

I’ve been feeling a bit distant from them both I feel like I can’t entertain them & more importantly I can’t keep the baby from jumping on mom.. mom is tired & want to relax. It’s hard for us to be intimate as the baby sleeps with us even tho he has his own room. I’ve notice this might be taking a toll on our relationship as I find myself wanting to do other things & leave them in the other room..

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SheBeeMe t1_j6pitvh wrote

Welcome to Parenthood. You don't get to check out just because it's difficult. You don't get to leave the parenting and responsibilities to your wife simply because you are tired of trying. Step in and step up. Read parenting blogs/books, ask experts for advice, see a therapist, but don't stop trying.

If your child wants to run around and play, put baby gates up and let him run in a safe space.

You have to plug in to your family.

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