Welcome to Parenthood. You don't get to check out just because it's difficult. You don't get to leave the parenting and responsibilities to your wife simply because you are tired of trying. Step in and step up. Read parenting blogs/books, ask experts for advice, see a therapist, but don't stop trying.

If your child wants to run around and play, put baby gates up and let him run in a safe space.

You have to plug in to your family.