MidLyfeCrisys t1_j6nrjyl wrote on January 31, 2023 at 5:14 PM

>Anytime I bring up their friendship he gets very defensive.

Red flag

>he cheated on his ex-wife with me

Red flag

>He had just re-download the app that night and when I opened it up he not only friended the lady from work but he also friended about 5 other girls.

Red flag

>He got very upset, compared me to his ex-wife, and said all women are the same.

Red flag

>So when I found out he added her without talking to me it made me very upset. When I brought up that I had asked for that he said he doesn't remember me telling him that. When I asked him why all of their texts were deleted he said he doesn't know. He said they either just disappeared or he deleted them and doesn't remember doing it.

Red flag

>But then he hides stuff and doesn't seem to understand why it's a problem.

Red flag

I mean, seriously, what else do you need?

Valuable_Zucchini_97 OP t1_j6ntfp6 wrote on January 31, 2023 at 5:26 PM

A new brain I guess lol

MidLyfeCrisys t1_j6ntlj6 wrote on January 31, 2023 at 5:26 PM

I'm so sorry. He's obviously doing bad things.

Valuable_Zucchini_97 OP t1_j6nuayg wrote on January 31, 2023 at 5:31 PM

Yeah I guess I just have a hard time trusting myself. And when he tells me he is being truthful with me I want to trust him, even tho it doesn't add up.

MidLyfeCrisys t1_j6nujgf wrote on January 31, 2023 at 5:32 PM

Of course we want to trust those we love. But when the actions are so at odds with the words, something's not right. Trust your gut.

Valuable_Zucchini_97 OP t1_j6nunq1 wrote on January 31, 2023 at 5:33 PM

Thanks for your help

Significant_Rain_386 t1_j6nyjhw wrote on January 31, 2023 at 5:56 PM

If he cheated with you he’ll cheat on you.