My(M25) gf(F26) has Problems with me staying over

Submitted by Particular_Team_5385 t3_10q5mpp in relationship_advice

Even though we're together for a year now. If I come over to the city which is 1hr away. I have to travel all the way back to my place in the evening and can't stay over at her place cause she has to work the next day. She has a one room Apartment and claims she can't sleep right when Im there. It really left me bitter cause I would never ask her to go home all the way if she came over. Even if it would mean a bit less sleep one night How do I deal with this? I even offered that we could sleep seperately but still she said no

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TJLawrence192 t1_j6nz213 wrote

So basically a 2 hour booty call ? This seems very odd. Could potentially be a red flag.

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Particular_Team_5385 OP t1_j6nzbim wrote

She said she has to work the next day and can't sleep well when Im there

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TJLawrence192 t1_j6nzmaj wrote

Go over when she doesn't have to work. See what she says. And see if she makes an excuse. TBH this seems a bit off.

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Particular_Team_5385 OP t1_j6nzuat wrote

She has no problems when there's no work. But still complains that its too much preparation when I come over

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TJLawrence192 t1_j6o0b37 wrote

Reading this I hardly see it really moving past the 2 hour booty calls. Yes relationships are work. If she's complaining about her "Boyfriend" coming over. Than just take it for what it is and just don't be as serious with her. By the sound of things. she's not a keeper IMO.

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Particular_Team_5385 OP t1_j6o0lv7 wrote

I said it to her face. I treat you the way you treat me. Don't be surprised if the relationship does not grow. I actually told her I felt low and would be nice If we're together just this one night. Still she did not agree..

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TJLawrence192 t1_j6o1azm wrote

Ask her to come over to your place. See how she reacts. Do it knowing she doesn't work the next day. If she refuses and just be direct and ask her what's going on.

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Particular_Team_5385 OP t1_j6o1tcm wrote

Made no sense dude. Why

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TJLawrence192 t1_j6o25ci wrote

Because she clearly doesn't want to spend the night. I don't know one couple that given the chance wouldn't take it.

Edit. Also remember having been told to leave because she has to work and she can't sleep while you're there. Makes for a very rough 1 hour drive home.

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