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Cute-Direction-2440 t1_j6p4awv wrote

Reply to comment by nightowl2023 in Am I (25F) just jealous of my BFs(24M) attention or are my emotions valid? by [deleted]

I feel like I should never be jealous because I completely trust my BF and if I do feel jealous it’s because I don’t trust him. But realistically jealously is a human emotion I have to learn to deal with and manage.

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nightowl2023 t1_j6p589j wrote

>I feel like I should never be jealous because I completely trust my BF

Eh.....

If you never feel jealous or protective of your spouse then you either are a robot or view them in a way that is not healthy. For example, let's flip the script here. Imagine if you had a picture on social media with some guy who had his hands around your waist.

Then you ran into that guy and he started hugging you.

Unless your boyfriend is into you with other guys his reaction is probably going to be WHO DA F is that guy? As would any reasonable person. And this is why we have boundaries in relationships.

For example, my wife is fine with me being friends with other women. But my wife is not fine with me doing things like being alone + drinking with other women. Or talking to women at really late hours.

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Cute-Direction-2440 t1_j6p6nrs wrote

That’s a good point and thanks for the perspective. A little bit of jealously can be normal and healthy.. to a point. It’s about how you handle it and set the boundaries after with your partner and respect them moving forward. I’ll talk to him tonight about it while it’s fresh.

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