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carlorway t1_j6p32kw wrote

If it bothers you this much, then yes, say something. Don't wait. Clear the air while it is fresh.

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nightowl2023 t1_j6p36te wrote

Moral of the story.

People get a high on attention and someone being interested in them.

It's okay to be jealous in a relationship. And it's okay to voice whether or not you feel comfortable with your partner doing things with certain people. Because at the end of the day he is dating you and not the other girl. I would just tell him that you do not prefer that he has physical contact with her in the future.

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Cute-Direction-2440 t1_j6p4awv wrote

I feel like I should never be jealous because I completely trust my BF and if I do feel jealous it’s because I don’t trust him. But realistically jealously is a human emotion I have to learn to deal with and manage.

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nightowl2023 t1_j6p589j wrote

>I feel like I should never be jealous because I completely trust my BF

Eh.....

If you never feel jealous or protective of your spouse then you either are a robot or view them in a way that is not healthy. For example, let's flip the script here. Imagine if you had a picture on social media with some guy who had his hands around your waist.

Then you ran into that guy and he started hugging you.

Unless your boyfriend is into you with other guys his reaction is probably going to be WHO DA F is that guy? As would any reasonable person. And this is why we have boundaries in relationships.

For example, my wife is fine with me being friends with other women. But my wife is not fine with me doing things like being alone + drinking with other women. Or talking to women at really late hours.

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Cute-Direction-2440 t1_j6p6nrs wrote

That’s a good point and thanks for the perspective. A little bit of jealously can be normal and healthy.. to a point. It’s about how you handle it and set the boundaries after with your partner and respect them moving forward. I’ll talk to him tonight about it while it’s fresh.

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theycalledhermorlock t1_j6p77k1 wrote

I've been hanging out with musicians/bands since I was a teenager, for literally like forty years. This is normal behavior of fans.

You have the right to have your feelings, though. Talk to him about it.

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Cute-Direction-2440 t1_j6p7ozs wrote

Thanks for the perspective. Their band isn’t that big yet but I already know how groupies can be. Any other advice with dating people in bands?

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