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DistraugtlyDistractd t1_j6owqlk wrote

I want to tell her this because I want things to work, but she didn’t seem to value me anymore. It seemed one sided in some aspects.

I want things to work and would work everyday on our relationship for it to work. It was just poor communication that caused the issues.

She said during the breakup maybe in the future we can get back together.

Idk if that is something you just say though.

I want to be with her but I want her to value me instead of me having to ask. I guess this would be me asking once again to work things out.

I just want her to know its when she is ready to commit rather than treat me poorly

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TheRivalxx t1_j6oz5hf wrote

If that’s the case then she will be the one that needs to reach out to you. Otherwise you’re giving her the power as in she will think she can have you whenever she wants

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DistraugtlyDistractd t1_j6oznge wrote

Do you think she would reach out even though I ended it with her? Is it a “rule,” not to text back the person who dumped you? So I would send this so she knows she can reach out.

I see your point though

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Similar_Corner8081 t1_j6p80kc wrote

As a woman if you broke up with me I wouldn’t text you back. I would move on with my life. You made a decision that was best for you now I would do the same.

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sleepingfox307 t1_j6p9g8x wrote

Then it's already on her and she knows that.

Move on mate.

This will rub salt in her wounds and leave you waiting and angsty for a response that may likely never come.

Leaving the porch light on is one thing, but this is like leaving the door wide open after kicking someone out, it sends totally mixed messages and it's just going to cause more hurt.

Let it go, move on.

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DistraugtlyDistractd t1_j6paj4r wrote

We did end things on a good note. I said pretty much the same thing, I broke it off because I didn't feel like she prioritized me and was distancing herself from me. We wouldn't go on dates and when I was down visiting her she spent some of the time with some guys besides me on my last day at her university.

I said I want someone who is stoked to see me and chooses me first over some other guys. She said she felt the same way about breaking up for a while, we talked some more and she said hopefully when the time is right we will be back together and that there is a good chance we will get back together. We both said I love you, hugged, I gave her a last kiss, and left. I am just hurting now man, I know this isn't a good idea, but I just wish we didn't have to break up.

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sleepingfox307 t1_j6pbaoh wrote

Sigh.

I know that pain all too well man, it sucks.

But it sounds like it was mutual and that you both have said all you need to say. Look I totally understand wanting to reach out that one last time, really I do... but it doesn't bring the closure you think it does, trust me.

One day at a time, bro, just keep going.

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