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sarcasticabsence t1_j6mw327 wrote

Do you really love him or are you just wearing rose colored infatuation glasses for a guy old enough to be your father with a creepy habit of frequently dating women who are barely legal? Girl get it together

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Universal_Yugen t1_j6mx37q wrote

I second this. Get it together. Please.

You can ask us to not mention the age gap, but if you want another's perspective, we're entitled to share what it is we see that is situationally concerning.

This age gap is frightening and I cannot fathom the depths of who he truly is to be using such young women in this way.

You are being used under the guise of love and relationships. Real relationships are based on mutual respect, not infatuation. They don't work in this context. 25 year age-gaps are creepy and wrong, OP.

Get it together.

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ThrowRA-wwydiw OP t1_j6mwojt wrote

I know I know it’s cliche. I can’t try to rationalize or explain it to anyone else I guess. It’s just a preference for me. I understand what you are saying though.

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Hal_Jordan55 t1_j6mxfkg wrote

It’s understandable to have a preference for older men but do you really have a preference for this type of older man? Even if we didn’t know the ages this guy is a mess.

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ThrowRA-wwydiw OP t1_j6mxjgu wrote

I mean everything so far, has been pretty good. Except this, and in my mind, this is huge.

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Hal_Jordan55 t1_j6myjvw wrote

I agree it’s def pretty big. If anything you should slow things down in the relationship

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Lil_lib_snowflake t1_j6mxig9 wrote

Genuinely hoping you consider seeking therapy because that preference sounds like it may have some deeper emotional baggage attached to it and you deserve to find someone who is your equal and your partner. Dating men who are twice your age and habitually go for women yours is rarely going to work out well for you. There’s a reason they are still going for the young, naive girls. You’ll eventually mature and they won’t. Who they are now at their big age is who they will likely always be.

Edit: not nearly twice, actually twice

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bananahammerredoux t1_j6n3i0f wrote

Consider that you have a preference for men who like to date women who are barely legal adults and not fully biological adults. That should worry you.

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