My(28F) bf (28M) seems misogynistic towards women drivers but has progressive values.

Submitted by ThrowRAdrmr t3_10q9jhd in relationship_advice

My (28F) bf(28M), is misogynistic in certain ways but he claims he is not.

This manifests itself a lot on the road. He almost never lets me drive even though I want to and keeps pointing out mistakes done by women on the road, and argues with me when I point out the times where they are not actually in the wrong.

I got into a minor accident a while ago to avoid a potentially serious head on collision with someone overtaking and to this day he brings it up and makes fun of me for it.

He has a beater truck he uses as a second vehicle, and I feel like he actively tries to hit women drivers when they are slightly in the wrong (creeping into a lane slightly etc). He has actually hit 3 cars this way while I was with him and all were young women drivers and considered to be not his fault and one other woman while I was not with him.

I saw his search history ones and he searches things like "woman driver crash" on youtube. He also watches a lot of videos with women failing at things.

The final straw was this weekend. There is a shared parking lot in my townhouse where I keep my car. We were supposed to go out with my car with me driving for once and as I left my parking spot, I scratched the side of my car on a boulder that was placed very close to my car. He seemed amused. There should not have been a boulder there and I did not know how it got there since it was not there when I parked. He lectured me about needed to be aware of surroundings.

I later got surveillance footage from my neighbor and he had placed the boulder before visiting me!

I brought up all these things with him and called him a misogynist. He said that was not true and that he does not believe women are bad drivers and is a feminist and all he admitted to was that he has a finds amusement from women in vulnerable situations and said it is a fantasy he cannot control. He denied getting into those accidents intentionally and says it is a coincidence.

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peakpenguins t1_j6oo39h wrote

>I later got surveillance footage from my neighbor and he had placed the boulder before visiting me!

Your boyfriend? Brought a boulder to your house and put it next to your car just to see you hit it?

Ok...

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MidLyfeCrisys t1_j6onq7h wrote

I'm having trouble believing this.

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SleepFlower80 t1_j6oohq2 wrote

A boulder? A boulder big enough to damage your car but small enough for you to not notice? This whole thing sounds like bullshit

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ThrowRAdrmr OP t1_j6op0xr wrote

It is a gravel parking lot just the height of the lower part of the rear door. The damage is not much but it got stuck under the car as I turned.

He can't be identified from the video but it looks like him and the boulder was moved from the parking lot fence to near my car.

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ThrowAwayWowOk t1_j6op4wc wrote

If it's real, get the fuck out of there. I bet he loves the movie Deathproof.

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