You don’t need reddit, you need serious therapy. This isn’t something you can solve or heal from here.

The argument with your boyfriend is hugely insignificant in relation to the mental health struggles you are going through. I hope you have medical support for what I am guessing involves PTSD and/or C-PTSD, and I hope you have a therapist who can help you process everything you have survived and continue to survive. He can't be your therapist or your doctor, and, you're right, he hasn't experienced it and can't truly understand it.

Op. Let me emphasize:. It is not your fault you were abused and assaulted. It is not your fault you had a miscarriage. It is not your fault you had a bad experience with an IUD. You are not a bad person. You are a normal person experiencing a lot of pain that you don't know how to handle. Your boyfriend may have trouble understanding you, and it's wrong of him to talk down to you or criticize you when he can't understand. If you can afford one and if you can find one, I highly recommend seeking a professional therapist who can help you work through your trauma and help you deal with your emotions in a less stressful way. I also recommend going back to your gynecologist to get the IUD removed if you haven't done so already. You do not have to live with that physical pain. If the doctor won't remove it or tries to talk you out of removing it, find another doctor who will take it out. It's ok to try a product and realize you don't like it.

Honey, I don't say this to be unkind, but I think you need mental health treatment more than you need a boyfriend-relationship right now. You've been through some heavy abuse and I also think you need an urgent doctor visit for the medical problem. You DO deserve good quality help!

If I were you I'd ask the boyfriend for space and meanwhile get in to see a doctor, get started with a therapist and maybe a psychiatric evaluation, and I don't know if you work or are in school, but maybe a little time off would do you good.

You absolutely do deserve to be treated well, to be understood, and to be free of pain.

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