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I'd get some therapy for yourself and probably sleep in separate beds for the next little while.

Has he even apologized for what he's done or was it a lot of "oh, but I was drunk."?

The only moving on is moving on without him. The first time was unforgivable. The second time means he WILL KEEP DOING IT.

Idgaf how nice he is when he isn’t raping you - and neither should you.

Please leave him.

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Given that he's done this more than once, I'd take a break from the relationship.

He can't be trusted. Plain and simple. Once is a fluke. Twice is a habit.

You break up with them, and if necessary take legal action

No he isn’t. He’s a rapist and he’s lying to you. Your age gap tells me everything.

There’s no way he doesn’t remember assaulting you twice. You deserve so much better than this, do not let him hurt you again. Being drunk lowers our inhibitions but it doesn’t change who we are as people. He showed you exactly who he is. Run.

"He's so kindhearted when he's not raping me and saying mean things!"

How many times does he have to rape you before he's not "kindhearted" anymore?