[22M] [22F] I’m being ghosted and feel like shit

Submitted by benzodiazepine_ t3_10qc864 in relationship_advice

Last week I (22M) met an Italian girl (22F) who came to the United States 2 weeks ago on Bumble. We've talked like a week and after that arranged a date. Before the date we have seen each other most naturally (no poses, no effects) on FaceTime. And after FaceTime she texted me "you're so cute I wanna see right now -time was 3am- and sent me a voice msg “I like you but I don’t know if u liked me bla bla”. She was hanging with her friends in Manhattan and wanted to take a train ride to see me to Long Island at that time. I said no because I thought it will be better to see her in a larger time and arranged a meeting for after that day. I asked her to hold her hand while I'm driving and she letted me. I took her to nice restaurant, drank some wine etc. . After the date she said she's available after work in the week and fully free on weekends before I asked. Before I dropped her I asked for a goodbye kiss and just gave me kiss on my cheek. In the morning I texted her "hey I had a nice time, enjoyed your company I wanna see you again if u also like to" and never got respond. She left me on delivered. I'm a bit confused what she didn't like about me. I don't think it's because appearance because we did FaceTime already she was seeming so hyped to meet me. Maybe she's not satisfied of my financial situation. I've been here to different world just for 7 months and I still don't have a classy car. I don't have any financial support after me so I'm tryna get things done by myself. She might be feel uncomfortable because I wanted the things get done faster. I'm pretty new on dating apps and have not lot of experience on dating face to face. I need your help guys to figure out what I’ve done wrong. I think I wanted develop the things so quick

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RoosterPorn t1_j6p5149 wrote

Dating in your early twenties is a wild ride. Sometimes really good connections just drop with no explanation. Don’t think too much about it. Also, idk what your expectations are, but if I was 22 and someone didn’t date me because of my car I’d consider that a bullet dodged.

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RoosterPorn t1_j6p5hwl wrote

Replying to benzodiazepine_ (#1,686,391)

Don’t stress over a girl that would take a pass on you because of a 2013 Nissan Sentra. Not saying she did, but I feel like that’s a good rule to live by. The only time a car itself becomes a red flag is if it’s destroyed or filled with trash.

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RoosterPorn t1_j6p6zjp wrote

Replying to DM_ME_YOUR_PET_PICSS (#1,686,992)

Not necessarily a red flag though. Maybe your neighbors ex got the wrong car? Maybe your neighbors exes friend got the wrong car? Maybe a drunk person thought it’d be funny? Maybe you ghosted a girl after the first date and she turned out to be crazy? So many possibilities. But if I can’t see the floors of your car due to fast food garbage that points toward serious issues that don’t have a lot of reasonable excuses.

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RoosterPorn t1_j6p7p1n wrote

Replying to benzodiazepine_ (#1,686,991)

There IS always the possibility that she’s still emotionally a child and has crazy expectations for what is important in life. I don’t know her though. My best advice is to just think of it as a learning experience and take whatever positive things you can from it. I’m 26, and the first 6 years of my twenties were all learning about what I do and don’t want in a relationship. I went through a lot of hard stuff, but I wouldn’t be where I was today if I hadn’t been through those events.

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BlueBelle2019 t1_j6p7xdt wrote

She just got here. She doesn’t want to commit to anything too fast and too soon. She wants to go out and have fun and explore her new city.

This likely has nothing to do with you.

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