Only you can decide if this is worth it, but personally I'd move out regardless and reconsider this relationship from a distance; you don't deserve the way he's talking to you or treating you and there's no excuse for it. He's over 30, not 16, and he needs to grow up enough to communicate if you're going to have a life together. You were barely adults when you picked each other out, and you might've just outgrown each other. It happens. Or maybe distance will give you both perspective and you'll realize that this is really what you want. But either way it will be a change that cements how serious you are about things being in an untenable state and needing to change drastically before they can actually work.