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cosmicpower23 t1_j6o7qux wrote

You could just say you're not interested innher like that. It's not that hard. If she pushes, stop engaging. Sometimes feelings are just not there.

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normalizingfat t1_j6o6bhq wrote

“i will only date virgins and have reason to believe you are not. that is non-negotiable for me.”

“i do not think our morals align.”

“i am not interested in dating people with your history.”

honestly how would you get around it? keep your boundary, but talk to her like a human who deserves the truth.

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theycalledhermorlock t1_j6o9wyf wrote

Just tell her you're not compatible. She isn't entitled to a reason.

Good luck finding anyone in your age range who's also a virgin.

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Consistent_Patient88 t1_j6o7xo3 wrote

That’s your values and your beliefs so I don’t see why you’re getting a hard time for it. You don’t need to explain why you’re not interested, you just tell her you’re not and she accepts it. Don’t make her feel bad about her choices, so it’s better not mentioning that at all. You’re perfectly entitled to tell someone you don’t see them that way.

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nickmandl t1_j6ob390 wrote

Yeah just tell her your not interested in her. That’s all the explanation she needs

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