Submitted by ThrowRAclimbON t3_10q5kkd in relationship_advice
What do I do I'm stuck
Hello everyone this is my first post and I don't know how much to say but.. it all starts with a high school ex that eventually me and her started talking again 6 years after and eventually started dating again one thing to mention she was at the time pregnant with someone else's baby but I expected that I had no problem I wanted kids myself at some point so thought to myself okay well this is a good start her previous ex was horrible to her through the pregnancy so flash to now and there was a couple times that she went back to him and to me he was always able to convince her to do what he wants she now has a EPO against him and we are currently married for 4 months now I have been working out of town and for about a week I noticed that she was very weird with her phone trying to turn it away from me in bed things like that always on it and it was all huge signs of her texting him even though she wasn't supposed to at all I know this because that's what she did before the EPO so one day she left her phone upstairs and asked me to grab it and I know I shouldn't have done this but I just had to see for myself I unlocked her phone and what I seen absolutely broke me she was sexually texting him and it went on for so long I finally sucked it all up and talked to her about it and she came clean she told me that she felt that I wasn't there enough and that I didn't give her enough attention and that it was pretty because she should have talked to me first but instead found attention from someone else and her baby daddy was easy to get it from.. I threw the word out the big D divorce and she begged me not to so I said one chance one last chance and you have to get some help with it all. The next day she went and got some counseling and said it really helped yet didn't show me anything so I gave her the benefit of the doubt and moved on and hoped that she would grow from this.. last week I got home from work and found that there was vape juice and Pepsi with hollindays sauce as well the vape juice was not mine and she hats papsi and the sauce yet I know for a fact that her baby daddy loves that sauce and papsi and when I was I was helping her move out in to my house that's the vape juice he used and swore by it.. when I asked her about it all she said she had made the sauce for our daughter and the papsi was hers yet again she hates pepsi and she said she had no idea where the juice came from and that she was scared that it just showed up in our home oh and side note it was in our bedroom.. at this point I'm completely done and heartbroken and can't seem to bring myself another day because I love our daughter she is a little over 1 years old and sees me as her dad and I see her as my daughter.. please help I'm so stuck and can't seem to figure any of this out..
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