That's a pretty nice neighbor, they gifted you some lumber, in the form of a fence. Take the fence down if you don't like it.

> The courts don't seem helpful in this matter,

That would imply you've gone to court. Lawyers turning your case down implies you haven't gone to court. Courts don't do anything until you appear before a judge. That's how court works. So this statement makes no sense. You said in another statement that the court won't hear your cause unless you're represented by an attorney and that is simply not true at all. Whoever told you that lied to your face.

Courts DO NOT give legal advice. They are not allowed to. The most they can do is give you the forms you need to fill out to file a case. You look up how to file a court case, fill out the forms (it's not super hard) and you go before a judge. You don't need to have or be a lawyer. A judge will hear your case and decide it on its merits. They are regular people and they will work with you.

Look up how to be a pro se litigant (pro se means representing yourself)

For real though, what you should do is get 2 or 3 quotes from contractors to take the fence down, then take it down yourself (or pay a contractor to do it, its up to you), then leave the lumber in your yard for your neighbor to take back. Then send your neighbor a certified letter saying they have 30 days to collect their lumber or you will sell it. Also warn them (in writing if you prefer, or verbally if you prefer) that if they pursue the matter in court, you will ask the court to award you damages in the amount of the quote from a contractor (assuming you took it down yourself).

If you paid a contractor to do it, you can optionally sue them in small claims court (if under $5k) for the costs associated with taking the fence down. You can also choose to charge them a modest ($10 per day) storage fee for storing their lumber until they take it back. Idk if a storage fee will actually fly in court, but you can't get what you don't ask for.

Here is how to file a claim in small claims court. Lawyers are not allowed in small claims, unless either party happens to be a lawyer.

https://www.vacourts.gov/resources/small_claims_court_procedures.pdf