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Rs90 t1_j9ylto7 wrote

Reply to comment by Woodsman1993 in Failed sleep-in attempt Saturdaily by LilWhiny

It's a psychological tangle of wires imo. A major appeal of gaming is control. You press the button and it responds to that command immediately. Makes monkey brain feel good in a world of little control.

But having total control also means you're responsible for any fuck ups like not parrying at the right time and dyin like ass. It causes an immediate self-reflection that causes some to be embarrassed, frustrated, angry, deflect...ect. And some respond to these emotions with anger.

Adults do it all the time in real life but they don't realize it's the same as "gamer rage". How many times have you seen a full grown adult do somethin stupid, embarrassing, or frustrating and lose their mind? Stub their toe and get angry at the wall despite THEM being the only thing in motion. Not the fuckin wall.

People get very angry when forced to reconcile they don't have as much control as they thought, have control and still fucked it up, or just plain made a mistake. Learning how to reflect on oneself can be difficult when you're young. But it's important to do so. Or you'll become that dude that freaks out anytime you make a tiny mistake or miscalculation. Or worse, deflect and project it onto others and become an insufferable narcissist.

Edit- sorry I love video games and psychology and have seen this shit in online gaming for decades lol. People snapping Wii remotes in half cause they fucked up jumped into spikes and blame Mario.

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MissLauraCroft t1_j9yon1c wrote

This makes perfect sense! My oldest kid does like things to be predictable and under control, so I can understand his rage now. And I totally get mad at inanimate objects when I stub my toe. Thank you!

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Rs90 t1_j9yqt54 wrote

No problem. I'm a control freak as well so I know the feeling. Took years to acknowledge I like control and to be okay with that but still be mindful and accept when things are out of my control. Or suddenly change from being in my control to suddenly not.

Video games are a great way to live a "power fantasy" in a harmless way. Especially as a kid where you have little control. Too young to be right but too old to be wrong haha.

One thing I recommend is trying to teach em to go with the flow. Don't get too attached to how you think something will go. Offer alternatives before an event is set in motion. Goin to get ice-cream? Ask em what they're gonna get. "Chocolate!" "Ooo, chocolate is good. And if they don't have chocolate?" Make em acknowledge the possibility of having to change their plan based on outside variables they can't control.

Not everytime cause you don't wanna overanalyze every possibility. But it helps with kids not getting too worked up and confused when life changes as rapidly as it does at times.

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