Going to be alone thanksgiving

Submitted by Adept_Tangerine_4030 t3_z1k9v5 in rva

30F working in the city with no family. Anyone wanna meet up at a bar or restaurant in the evening or have dinner at someone’s house?

Edit: I guess I’m a creepy man pretending to be a lady who wants to meet at a public bar instead of being alone on a holiday just to rob you and possibly murder you.

Yes, sometimes I go to Reddit because I don’t know anyone and want to hookup.

No, I don’t always want to hook up.

Yes I change my age because I have been stalked and harassed by my abusive ex in a similar subreddit.

Crying before I even get to work today. I just didn’t want to be alone on my favorite holiday. Thanks RVA for welcoming this newcomer.

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DBallouV t1_ixd8m7m wrote

Man, this person reached out and this is the first time I’m disappointed in this sub.

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ryseing t1_ixdep9z wrote

Yeah, she's real and a nice person. I sent her a message before looking at her post history.

Being alone on Thanksgiving sucks and I'm in the same boat which is why I reached out.

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dustinator t1_ixf1fi0 wrote

You must not be from around here if youre just now realizing this sub is full of self righteous shitbirds

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AssroniaRicardo t1_ixce9fv wrote

my family is wacky. come to our thanksgiving day meal. we can put it on reddit

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zorak_robert t1_ixcnqmi wrote

I want to make some kind of joke but to be honest my life is completely empty as well. I don't think I'm ready to meet anyone yet, but it's nice to hear that I am not alone in the world.

I have been seeing a therapist and I told her I feel like an alien a lot. Like I am just visiting people on earth and observing them. The world is so cold and unforgiving, and I don't really seem to be able to connect with people emotionally.

The holidays are the hardest I think, but you'll make it. I think about ending my life a lot, but it's more idle idealization than planning. I don't know if any of this means anything to anyone but you'll make it! If I am still here then you'll be fine!

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Adept_Tangerine_4030 OP t1_ixcr4eg wrote

Hey! I’m glad you’re here and I hope you feel better! The world can definitely be cold and I’m feeling that extra hard this morning. Stay strong.

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cmissfit t1_ixdyjlw wrote

I've been describing myself the last several months as "haunting my life." Depression isn't very kind.

The pandemic didn't seem to help many to feel empathy for fellow man. There seem to be a lot of us in our lonely little crab shells ❤️

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ryseing t1_ixe019z wrote

> I have been seeing a therapist and I told her I feel like an alien a lot. Like I am just visiting people on earth and observing them. The world is so cold and unforgiving, and I don't really seem to be able to connect with people emotionally. > >

It's expensive but I would look into a formal diagnosis with someone in the neurological field. I felt this way for a long time and had to do that for school, and it turns out I'm on the spectrum. I used the actors in a play and everyone knows their lines but me analogy, so close enough.

Holidays blow for people like us. It's gonna be alright, I say as I grind my teeth with the days continuing to get shorter.

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Too_Many_dBs t1_ixd2d30 wrote

I am glad for this thread because there are so many users I didn’t know needed to be blocked by me.

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TheRealSuperJeff t1_ixcq383 wrote

hey I'm in the same boat, I say who needs turkey when you can find a bartender that makes a good old fashioned and whiskey sour

PM me if you want to get up and get a drink or 4

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RVADoberman t1_ixf57wx wrote

20 years ago I was at my lowest point. Newly divorced and suffering from chronic physical pain, I saw no way out.

It was very late on a Sunday night and I found the number for a local 24-hour suicide hotline in the RVA phone book. Not that I was about to do something, but I was alone and needed to hear someone tell me life was worth living.

I called the number and told the person who answered what was going on, and how I was struggling. After a pause he told me "Hey, I'm sitting in for the person who normally answers this line. I'm not sure what to say. Could you call back tomorrow morning after 9am?"

Ladies and gentlemen of RVA... that's when I decided that this world is too absurd NOT to keep going. I didn't call back on Monday, but instead worked on myself, got healthy, and am a happily married father of 2.

I hope you aren't alone on Thanksgiving, but if you are I hope you find a way make the best of it and realize this is just a stage in your life. A hard one, but you will get through it.

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Adept_Tangerine_4030 OP t1_ixcqoha wrote

Idk why everyone is thinking the worst when I just want to hang and have a drink like I’m genuinely confused I thought it might be nice to meet someone

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Adept_Tangerine_4030 OP t1_ixcrwws wrote

Doesn’t feel like a joke when you’re alone on a holiday and ppl make you feel like just asking to hang out is doing something terribly wrong. I guess I’ll just go ahead and say you’re bad at jokes

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Mentatminds t1_ixct3xw wrote

While i feel your sentiment , reddits not the most empathetic platform

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Adept_Tangerine_4030 OP t1_ixct9pv wrote

I get that totally but I just didn’t think I’d get screwed with literally talking about being alone. Maybe I’ll just kill myself this thanksgiving so I’ll never have to do it alone again and ppl can joke about that

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Professional_Book912 t1_ixcywnn wrote

Hey! DM me. We are doing a neighborhood progressive thing between 3 houses. Happy to have more people. I feel alone a lot, and kudos for asking for some help/hangout.

Also, just ignore the trolls. There are always shittly people.

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Adept_Tangerine_4030 OP t1_ixcznm6 wrote

It’s obviously not paying off cause I’m sitting in my bed crying because apparently I’m a horrible lying robber because sometimes I use Reddit for sex and sometimes I change my age and I’m also pretending to be a creepy man and I’m no longer in the mood to meet with anyone this week. Thanks anyways.

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_R_A_ t1_ixci5dc wrote

But drinking affects the liv.... Oooooooohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

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[deleted] t1_ixbut60 wrote

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GettinItEn t1_ixce8t9 wrote

Might wanna check the post history, this one is clearly a troll.

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Adept_Tangerine_4030 OP t1_ixcqztl wrote

How am I a troll? I do sex stuff too so I can’t want to eat on thanksgiving?

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pleet29 t1_ixd3ops wrote

the internet is a very suspicious place 🙃

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PadThai42 t1_ixe1dsh wrote

10/10 would not trust… I went on r/RVAGONEWILD for research purposes and it looks like its filled to the brim with fake accounts.

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Adept_Tangerine_4030 OP t1_ixect8w wrote

I’m sure there are lots of fakes but I talk to a lot of people on there so there’s real folks too. You don’t have to trust it but someone here will make a new friend

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gleepgloopgleepgloop t1_ixcl4is wrote

There may be volunteer activities and definitely runs (races and informal).

From your other posts you sound outgoing. Maybe ask for some recommendations for bars that people can go to solo and have fun. Off hand I might suggest Bamboo Cafe But there are a ton of others.

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Adept_Tangerine_4030 OP t1_ixcqw41 wrote

Ooh i just went to bamboo for my first time it was cool! I guess I’ll just ask for place since everyone thinks I am a creep for some reason. My profile is literally me trying to get gangbanged and to grab a drink and a bite for thanksgiving lol thanks for the suggestion

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gleepgloopgleepgloop t1_ixcxvux wrote

No need to beat around the bush about dinner and drinks. If you just want to get fucked. Just come out and say it. I've been told that there are lifestyle/ swinger communities around town that you might want to connect with as well.

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Adept_Tangerine_4030 OP t1_ixcyhcv wrote

I am connected with those groups. I DON’T WANT SEX. I just want to grab a freakin glass of wine with someone on thanksgiving. Maybe have a damn appetizer.

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___zero__cool___ t1_ixd2ry8 wrote

Yo, OP is not exactly beating around the bush with their other posts, they’re as straightforward and candid about what they want as can be. Why do you think they’d suddenly try the subterfuge route? Is it really that surprising that even though people like getting dicked down, they might just want a chill meal on Thanksgiving?

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Adept_Tangerine_4030 OP t1_ixcy4q4 wrote

I obviously have no problem with asking to get laid cause I do that in other posts. If that’s what I wanted I would SAY IT. Just because I want that sometimes doesn’t mean I want to all the time. You sound like someone who says, “she wanted it once so she must have wanted it again!” Some shit a rapist would say.

This time I just want dinner and drinks. But thanks for being a real smart person that knows exactly what I’m thinking even though you no actual idea what you’re talking about

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augie_wartooth t1_ixd2ygy wrote

Don’t let assholes get you down. How dare a woman be forward about wanting to get laid, right? Must mean she’s a giant slut and that’s all she ever wants, or not a woman at all. ETA I know that’s not what you’re doing with this post!

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Adept_Tangerine_4030 OP t1_ixd3rq9 wrote

I honestly didn’t think it would matter if I posted cause this is my only account. I didn’t think anyone would care that I’ve posted to hookup and somehow that makes me a criminal?

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gleepgloopgleepgloop t1_ixczo3x wrote

Again, if I read your post wrong, then I apologize.

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Adept_Tangerine_4030 OP t1_ixczur7 wrote

Thanks it’s okay. I’m defensive cause ppl are attacking me and now all of RVA is going to troll me the rest of today

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mike_the_seventh t1_ixlpx2q wrote

If anyone is harassing online you let us know and we can out them online

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Adept_Tangerine_4030 OP t1_ixcybuy wrote

Oh I see now, you messaged me hoping I’d spread my legs for you but I didn’t so you’re angry. Makes sense.

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gleepgloopgleepgloop t1_ixcym4q wrote

I didn't message you. A mistake I made was replying to this thread at all. LOL

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Adept_Tangerine_4030 OP t1_ixcyxpy wrote

I mean you were the nicest one at first but then you started acting like you know what I want/telling me what to do and I hate it when ppl do that 🤷🏾‍♀️

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RVA_Lakeside t1_ixcyx8r wrote

So you have a post from 5 days ago stating 28F and now this post stating 30F - Something seems off. Feel like this is asking to be setup and robbed.

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Adept_Tangerine_4030 OP t1_ixczbwt wrote

My roundabout age is 28-33. I use a roundabout because I have an abusive ex that has stalked me on Reddit several times. Great detective work.

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GMUcovidta t1_ixd7k81 wrote

I always wonder about the people who see these posts and actually go to meet up with them....

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Hedgecore138 t1_ixdj9v8 wrote

Got dumped last month and the biological family is out of town. I am definitely going to be out and about visiting my bartender friends.

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kegel_monster t1_ixcm26x wrote

Go to a bar and strike up a conversation with a stranger. As an anxious person this was hard at first, but if you really want to make friends or not be alone on thanksgiving this is your best bet.

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Adept_Tangerine_4030 OP t1_ixcqhyh wrote

I have no problem doing that I just thought it would be fun to make it a plan to meet someone new instead of going to a bar no one will be at

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Charlesinrichmond t1_ixd3vfz wrote

I think your best bet is friendly bars. Bamboo is frequently mentioned. Not sure what is open during thanksgiving

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icepick314 t1_ixcogdi wrote

|30F

|Anyone wanna meet up at a bar or restaurant in the evening or have dinner at someone’s house?

If this is a horror movie, it's a HUMONGOUS red flag with rows of spot lights.

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Adept_Tangerine_4030 OP t1_ixcqk0u wrote

Umm ok not a horror movie. Just a person who just moved here has to work thanksgiving morning and her only 2 friends here are both out of town. I don’t know what’s open/fun/entertaining on thanksgiving and google isn’t really straightforward.

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___zero__cool___ t1_ixd270r wrote

New York Deli is open on Thanksgiving and Christmas, at least it used to be. Their food had gone a bit downhill, and during their normal weekend nights it’s a little too much a douche bro vibe for me, but on holidays and snow days it has a pretty awesome relaxed neighborhood vibe.

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Lidjungle t1_ixdyvmx wrote

We don't do anything special, but no one should be alone on Thanksgiving.

You're welcome to come eat Chinese food with me and my wife. We have ping pong. You just need transport to Powhatan, BYOB.

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Lidjungle t1_ixe2r6g wrote

Just to be clear after checking your post history... Not looking for any fooling around. Just offering to feed ya and hang out. Don't care what you do in your spare time. Hope yer 420 friendly.

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Adept_Tangerine_4030 OP t1_ixe6svi wrote

Yes those posts and this post are completely separate I’m just looking to hang out

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Lidjungle t1_ixe80k2 wrote

I just didn't notice the post history before making the offer. :) No offense intended. Just wanted you to know there was no ulterior motive. More concerned you'd assume I was being a creeper than anything.

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heartbrokebonebroke t1_ixfzf53 wrote

I'll be with my family, in another state (so mostly, Thanksgiving in the car alone trying to get there on time), but people should be nicer. There is no season of rudeness, y'all.

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Newyew22 t1_ixhvimu wrote

I’m so sorry many people treated an earnest request with scorn and judgment. Good for you living out loud; I sincerely hope you find a dining companion for tomorrow’s holiday.

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Ephialtesloxas t1_ixj3w8o wrote

I can't tomorrow, but I can if you want to tonight. Not exactly Thanksgiving dinner or whatever, but close enough, right?

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Calm-Frosting-3487 t1_ixllki6 wrote

It doesn't help when your entire post history is asking for lewd stuff, so while I understand the suck it is to be alone on the holidays, it would probably have been better if you wanted a genuine connection with someone to post under a different alias, because otherwise you're probably gonna get most responses from people that just wanna fuck or be weird based on your Reddit history. . .

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Adept_Tangerine_4030 OP t1_iy1iwua wrote

Not everyone thinks like you. I met up with some really nice ppl and had dinner and nothing weird happened. Sorry you’re not always right

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Responsible_Top5563 t1_ixdt4l0 wrote

For my first couple of Thanksgivings in RVA I was by myself and didn't have anywhere to go either. I went to a couple of homeless shelters and ate with the good people down there. It was good company and some of my fondest memories. Hope you are able to find some good company whatever you do.

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Lsufaninva t1_ixew9qg wrote

Lunch is at 2 I’m making dinner for all of my friends with 0 family or no place to go If you need a place hit me up

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mlmiller1 t1_ixlue9v wrote

Don't spend Thanksgiving alone. Join us for a free hot meal 12:30-3:30pm. Diversity Richmond Event Hall, 1407 Sherwood Ave 23220

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Daemonrealm t1_ixe6qp4 wrote

Well one thing on checking post history is I had no idea there was a rva gone wild sub. Lol.

Y’all crazy and need Jesus. /s of course on that.

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Adept_Tangerine_4030 OP t1_ixebms4 wrote

Haha I’m here for it! The first time I typed in RVA on Reddit (back in the summer when I just moved here) I saw it and was like hmm okay let’s get freaky 😝 there is zero kinky community where I’m from so I’m really enjoying it.

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Daemonrealm t1_ixecn32 wrote

Oh there is here in Richmond. Just didn’t think Reddit had much at all here (it doesn’t). To not violate this subs terms I won’t post any further on that.

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Notthatianmcewan t1_ixd38a5 wrote

I recommend check their past posts before inviting. To each their own just made me consider.

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PadThai42 t1_ixe1u2a wrote

Ahhh come on???? You don’t want to have a 22M4M + 30F???Lol

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Adept_Tangerine_4030 OP t1_ixedccg wrote

You’d be surprised at the amount of people who respond to that. Do you enjoying trying to shame ppl?

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