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Phoenixapartment t1_j94o6y7 wrote

Reply to comment by QueenRooibos in Reflexive fear responses tend to linger in people with anxiety disorders, study suggests by chrisdh79

I have put off reading that book for too long

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Tempts t1_j960ulu wrote

That book is not worth reading and the author is a terrible human being. There are better books about trauma and anxiety

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i_wantcookies t1_j967deq wrote

How did you come to that conclusion?

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gutnikov t1_j98w6tt wrote

"Waking the Tiger" by Peter Levine is recommended as it helps understand the effects of trauma and anxiety.

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FartyPants69 t1_j96qjtb wrote

I'm guessing you're referring to his termination in 2017?

If so, worth mentioning that he accused the institution of making him the fall guy for their own failings, his colleagues unanimously resigned in support of him, and he won a defamation settlement against the institution.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bessel_van_der_Kolk

(In the Career section, paragraph starting with "In 2017")

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Tempts t1_j96rh4y wrote

I made passing reference to that. But I work in this field. It is not at all unusual to cross paths with people in professional and public spaces.

“When people show you who they are, believe them the first time” ~Maya Angelou

Believe it even more if they keep showing you who they are when the spot light is not on.

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FartyPants69 t1_j96snr5 wrote

I still don't understand what you're trying to say. You're saying you've met him and he said or did something bad to you personally?

I don't have a dog in the fight, I know nothing about the guy, but when you call someone a "terrible human being" I guess I think it's a good idea to be able to clearly articulate why

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Tempts t1_j96tkd9 wrote

That is just one part of a more robust post. And idk why you are focusing so much on that.

And this is vague because it has to be. There are professions that have many different rule sets they follow. Not everyone on Reddit is a 20 yr old boy. And not everyone on Reddit is without some level of reputation.

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AimlessZealot t1_j97ktai wrote

Research what whisper networks are and why they exist. Come back and tell us if you still think that last statement is a sensible and valid basis for all people to operate under.

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AimlessZealot t1_j989n6g wrote

No, that's exactly what you're saying. They stated it was vague because "it had to be," implying repercussions if they were too identifiable. The nature and purpose of whisper networks (which operate exclusively through gossip) is to allow important information and warnings to spread without such dangers.

By insisting that only those who can make clear accusations ever speak of issues, you are also stating anyone who faces jeopardy should either accept additional risks or not bother trying to pass any information. The worst this person's statement could lead to is others watching critically for a reason why or investigating further. That's a good thing, I think.

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Tempts t1_j9723xu wrote

Wow. That’s amazing. What are you hoping for? Something you can use to dox people?

You are out of your mind. And when you say “you have no skin in the game” you don’t know what that means.

Read the book. Write Bessel love letters. Start a subreddit for Bessel stans. Good lord.

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tiptoeintotown t1_j96tf5o wrote

That quote saved my life more than once and I tell it to everyone I meet who will listen.

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v0vaz t1_j99frpr wrote

While "The Body Keeps the Score" is a great book, there are other options as well. "Waking the Tiger" by Peter Levine is recommended.

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0fficerCumDump t1_j966lr9 wrote

Do you have any recommendations? I am fascinated by neurology & biological responses to these things & I am also a recovering drug addict who has suffered a great deal of extremely traumatic events due to being married to an addict. I would love to get into it & have an Audible credit in the chamber.

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ohfantasyfreeme t1_j96p7m8 wrote

May I suggest In The Realm of Hungry Ghosts and The Myth of Normal by Gabor Maté. Heck, why not add Scattered Minds too, also by Maté.

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entony1111 t1_j97ac41 wrote

"Waking the Tiger" by Peter Levine is a great book about trauma and anxiety, especially for those interested in neurology and biology.

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Tempts t1_j96b7zf wrote

Waking the Tiger by Peter Levine is a very good book.

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feiyuec7 t1_j98r7t1 wrote

"The Body Keeps the Score" is a great book that delves into the effects of trauma on the body.

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