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tastyToasterStreudal t1_iurbbrb wrote

This doesn’t determine causality at all. More stressed out moms may turn to social media support more than moms who aren’t losing their minds.

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LeskoLesko t1_iut7ehx wrote

Found the person who hasn't gone to social media groups for moms. They are craaaaazy.

I get stressed out just reading them. I've stopped subscribing. There are three categories of stress: the stress of seeking out advice for a scary situation, like you say, but then there are two more: the stress of women in terrible situations (abusive husbands, not enough food to eat, lost their jobs, about to be evicted, that kind of terrible situation) and the women who are actively abusing their kids and call it "love" or "fighting the power." You know the types -- the ones who think doctors are secretly killing babies for an unknown cult, so they refuse to take their kids to the hospital, the ones who use silver and boiled rose petals to treat their kid's ear infections, put eggs and onions in socks instead of using medicine, and who PUT BREAST MILK IN THEIR INFECTED KIDS EYES.

The social media groups include pictures, by the way. There was a picture a mom shared of her toddler masturbating, asking "is this normal?" and the kid's face was visible to all 30,000 members of the social media group before the mods took it down.

These groups are crazy, not kidding, just go to r/Mommit or r/ShitMomGroupsSay and your stress levels will shoot up too.

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ProfessionalOk112 t1_iutbm1v wrote

This study doesn't have any ability to determine causality, but I suspect that you are right.

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tastyToasterStreudal t1_iut8pg4 wrote

fair enough, but it is still uncontrolled here. I think all social media probably increases stress honestly, crazy or not

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bonyolult_ t1_iuvp1bs wrote

But.... there are DIFFERENT mom's groups as well. Well moderated, with supportive and nonshaming group norms, which decrease anxiety, amd increase feelings of belonging and being supported and such. Not differentiating mom groups according to this shaming/nonshaming culture difference seems like a HUGE research mistake to me.

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69_420_bonerjamz t1_iuuufng wrote

These groups are like a Mom QAnon. Led to the first big wave of anti vax liberal parents who wanted to live “organically”

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DTFH_ t1_iuwbriw wrote

They're older than that, you better off looking towards first wave organic parents and green movements! The woo to Q pipeline is nothing new, there just a new movement to join.

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insaneintheblain t1_iuthi3o wrote

They just discover many more things to lose their mind over, things they wouldn’t have otherwise thought about.

Edit: how does one ever grammar.

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fmfbrestel t1_iutgqxv wrote

Doesn't claim causality at all. Defensive much?

But it does open up interesting avenues for further study. People don't tend to make social media posts about the boring mundane everyday stuff. They make posts about the extraordinary stuff good and or bad. So you are going to see a decent number of posts on any parenting forum or subreddit about close calls, and rare complications and extreme interactions with strange people.

Parenting social media can be exhausting. There's little denying that.

That's why r/wholesomememes is so popular, you need some eye bleach after reading all the tragedies that get posted in r/parenting

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tastyToasterStreudal t1_iutwboa wrote

If you read the study, and not just the title on Reddit, it literally does. Glad you read before commenting and presenting anecdotal evidence to support your own views though. It also isn’t defensive because I’m not a mom, and not one who joins parent groups. I was simply pointing out a large variable not being controlled for

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