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TheWeirdByproduct t1_iwbvfbd wrote

Reply to comment by WayneDufty in Meta-analysis shows a strong association between loneliness and depressive symptoms in children and adolescents by chrisdh79

I think you'll find that boys have a wider set of needs and desires which are outside of the scope of what you think they need or need not do.

Or in other words they're people, not rocks for the benefit of someone else.

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WayneDufty t1_iwc2vk1 wrote

Well, yeah I spose it's not their fault, social media is the cause.. but we should be teaching our men to be stronger, emotionally.... All crying does is make you angry and used to that sympathy from others. Holds you down..... Things could change tomorrow, why worry about anything, just do what you want and love

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TheWeirdByproduct t1_iwc4n6m wrote

To admit one's vulnerability or emotionality is not a fault, stop thinking in these terms.

Men don't need to be strong, they need to be healthy. And tending to one's mental health is part of it.

To say that men must be strong is no different than saying that women must be obedient or accomodating; it's patriarchal drivel in the form of imposed societal roles, and it has no place in a civilized culture.

I'll be as weak as I want to be, and will defend the right of other men to do the same. Whoever tries to tell people how they should behave or be can go eat a bag of dirt.

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Clevercoins t1_iwcdus1 wrote

Just express your emotions openly with the people you care about dude. Pretending it makes you stronger by not crying or not talking to people won't help. Everyone has times where they feel angry , talking about it to people you trust helps form bonds with them and can improve your mood

Part of love is being there for the people you care about when you need them and knowing they will be there for you

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JonKon1 t1_iwcf37o wrote

Not crying tends to make you angry. Crying tends to help you accept things and move on.

I don’t follow the thought process of getting used to sympathy. Like it seems like a fairly obvious premise that when we are in trouble we offer each other comfort. Are you suggested that someone would become so addicted to connecting with others they’d make themselves cry when they don’t need to? That seems possible, but the issue there isn’t really crying, but the fact that they aren’t getting a satisfying emotional connection with others in other ways.

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