My husband and I were approaching 40 and had 2 children. While I would have loved a third, he just did not want a larger family so I respected that and asked him to get a vasectomy. He refused and I respected his bodily autonomy and didn’t fight it. I did tell him “well that’s fine for me because I would love a third child so I’m not getting on birth control and you will need to be responsible for condoms”. He enthusiastically agreed.

Aaaaaaand that’s the story of how I ended up giving birth to my third child at 40.