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Morkins324 t1_j44pf6l wrote

Yeah, it was an incredibly odd situation. Bauer and the woman had a consensual sexual relationship, which included a component of rough sex. I believe there were text messages where she had explicitly consented to things like choking and slapping. I think she also admitted that. Additionally, the allegations hinged on something that was claimed to have occurred during the first of two encounters. So, after he had supposedly sexually assaulted her, she continued contacting him and met up with him again for another encounter with rough sex. I also think she had taken a smiling selfie of herself in bed with him the morning after the supposed assault.

Bauer doesn't exactly come out of it looking great. Given the agreed upon facts, it isn't unreasonable to believe that he may have actually assaulted the woman. However, it is also reasonable to question the woman's allegations. Her motives are questionable given the timeline and the fact that she had gone back to see him again after the supposed assault. I wouldn't blame anyone for choosing to believe either one of them or neither of them or both of them. It is entirely possible that Bauer genuinely believed that she consented, or she had genuinely given consent but then it got out of hand and she regretted it but didn't verbalize revoking consent. They are probably the only two people that actually know what really happened.

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DFWPunk t1_j44vn1e wrote

There is also the case in Ohio, and the fact his texts confirm a lot of the disturbing details, which are disturbing even if you believe he's innocent of the charges. It's really violent, and his enjoyment is frightening.

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Morkins324 t1_j44wkdm wrote

Yeah, that is what I meant by "doesn't exactly come out of it looking great".

As far as finding the details disturbing, the saying goes "Don't kink shame". People are into different things. Just because he is into the roleplay of it doesn't necessarily mean that he wants to do anything that is non-consensual. People are complicated and just because we might not understand it doesn't mean that it is anything "wrong".

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