The_R1NG t1_j8udx8c wrote on February 17, 2023 at 12:33 AM

I understand you had an actual medical issue going on with the depression but your framing is very unfair. A loving partner can still be massively hurt or shattered by your actions and words. But I still think you may be dealing with depression, it doesn’t sound like you’re 100% okay with how you word and catastrophize things

I’m not excusing him because I don’t know him but maybe him being close and then distant is him battling his love for who he knows you are and his hurt/trauma from the woman you’ve been to him lately depression or not

North_Mongoose_4900 t1_j8ufa02 wrote on February 17, 2023 at 12:43 AM

I pretty much have been blaming myself for everything so I’ve not been adding his faults so much because I do blame myself (I think it’s part of the depression) even if he had cut me with a blade I’d think it was all my fault:/ I can’t help it

The_R1NG t1_j8ufe49 wrote on February 17, 2023 at 12:43 AM

Then you should separate, seek therapy if you’re not already and get healthy for you and your baby. Wish you the best .

North_Mongoose_4900 t1_j8uebe0 wrote on February 17, 2023 at 12:36 AM

My depression started because we agreed no visitors, he then had people over constantly when I was recovering, he would lie to me about dumb stuff, play video games up until 2am instead of help me with the baby, I was super alone, so I’d get upset and argue with him because I needed his help, he wouldn’t like it when my family would come over so again I was so isolated as a new mother, but I do understand where you’re coming from

The_R1NG t1_j8ueqpz wrote on February 17, 2023 at 12:39 AM

Assuming that’s all 100% true, unbiased and fair then that’s a different story