sleaklight t1_j7zwx1d wrote on February 10, 2023 at 4:35 PM

How did you sleep thru so many calls? Do you turn your ringer off at night or just have it super quiet you can't hear it? That's what I'm curious about. I think if you answered the first time and told them your mom said was ok, then all this escalation by your grandparents could have been avoided.

letmeseesubreddits t1_j7zxjt7 wrote on February 10, 2023 at 4:39 PM

i have my phone on both silent and do not disturb, and i’m a very heavy sleeper (have slept through the sounds of a drill in the same room, things like that). i think the repetitive vibrations of the calling is what eventually woke me up since i fell asleep with my phone pressed against my body. the main problem was that (reading my call logs here) my grandparents only tried to call twice at 4am before rapidly escalating the situation, while the sheriffs department repeatedly called in intervals every few minutes until i picked up and told them i was okay.

sleaklight t1_j7zyb1v wrote on February 10, 2023 at 4:44 PM

Oh wow that really sucks on their part then. I on the other hand am a very light sleeper. I go to sleep and get awake by someone getting up from the couch or flipping the light switch sound lol

letmeseesubreddits t1_j7zyumt wrote on February 10, 2023 at 4:47 PM

i don’t know if reddit has a character limit but if it did, i probably couldn’t even finish typing out a list of the things i’ve slept through. i also have “small ear canals” or something so i get routine ear flushings at the doctors to help me be able to hear better. i have a unique vibration sound for calls and alarms on my phone since i try to fall asleep with my phone near me so that i can feel those vibrations instead of relying on my admittedly crappy hearing

leatherpens t1_j7zyiqt wrote on February 10, 2023 at 4:45 PM

My phone is on silent at night because I don't want to be disturbed by the non-stop spam calls everyone gets nowadays. Or the fact that she was just at work beforehand and had it on silent. This is not unusual, and certainly not the problem in this story. The fact that they didn't even ask her mom if she knew where she was means this was entirely about controlling her, if they actually cared they would've woken her mom to check but they just wanted to bully OP for staying at her boyfriends (which they probably assumed and didn't like).

Your suggestion of appeasing people who are being unreasonable and arguably abusive is not a suggestion that will fix things in the long term.

killerofcheese t1_j80ev1j wrote on February 10, 2023 at 6:30 PM

my phone is silent 24/7 because im not supposed to have it on at work and then its do not disturb from 8 pm to 8 am because i slways get random discord notifications at like 3 am