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Lance4494 t1_j9hj2oh wrote

Theres no excuse for his actions. Im married and my wife has health issues as well (lots of them) we havent done anything in 4 years (yes its stressful as hell for me). Im a stay at home dad and havent seen any of my friends in 4 years. I havent cheated, he has no excuse. Dump his ass, throw his crap on the lawn, and spray paint cheating asshole across the front door!

I hope you find better!

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SnoopThereItIs88 t1_j9hk53y wrote

Oof. That's a lot to handle in your own. I hope you're doing ok! It's ok to take a break and see friends.

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Lance4494 t1_j9hldaa wrote

Would love to, most of them moved away. Would love to go to a dnd game at some point. Never have time. Would love to just go to a damn pool hall and shoot some billiards, someones always asking me to do something. And weve been stuck at her parents house for some damn reason living there for the last 4 and a half years.

Its starting to feel like prison

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SnoopThereItIs88 t1_j9hmho2 wrote

Ugh. That's a hell of a corner you're in. I can imagine the stress you're under. I hope your wife gets better soon.

Do you have Discord or Tabletop? You can play virtual games with them, including DnD! Tabletop is free, with a lot of virtual versions of games. I have a monthly Jackbox date with a few out of state friends and it's so much fun just to chill for an hr or so. I don't even need pants.

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Lance4494 t1_j9hn2yr wrote

Yeah, hard finding a group sometimes. Im very much a people person (and it drives my wife insane when i talk to random people in walmart) i had one group but it ended up stopping when schedules kept conflicting.

I started writing my own idea for a campaign centered around the idea of a guild, and a random table of posted quest on a guild board. Im currently trying to make 100 of these random quests that rotate 10 at a time. Simply roll a d100 10 times and you have your quests. Any overlap? Simple one less quest choice. Along with a seperate main questline for when the entire group is actually together.

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SnoopThereItIs88 t1_j9hnqe2 wrote

That's awesome! It's almost like a bunch of "Choose your own adventures" that tie into one big story. Very cool!

My husband is the same- golden retriever in a man's body. I don't think he's ever met a person he didn't like.

Hopefully you guys can catch a break soon!

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dustyrags t1_j9ifszv wrote

My brother’s DND game moved to zoom for pandemic. Why not that? Call the old gang, get a monthly game going, zoom that shit.

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dustyrags t1_j9ifk5x wrote

Dude, I don’t know you from Adam, but I’mma throw some free advice out here…

Ya gotta take care of yourself. Right now, you’re doing a hell of a lot for your lady and your smallfry, and that’s awesome! BUT! You can’t keep doing that if you burn yourself out, and besides, you deserve some you time too, completely separately of that.

Talk to your lady. Talk to her ‘rents. Tell them you’re burning out and need to make some space to chill and recharge before you deplete your battery completely. Good folks will understand. Take an evening, even if it’s just a couple times of month, and do SOMETHING for yourself. Join a pool league. Go hang at the local game store. Make a date with yourself to hang in a local cafe/check out a museum/go for a local bike ride/see a movie in the theater with popcorn and everything… just do SOMETHING.

Believe me, it’s worth it, and there’s nothing wrong with needing a little you time. It doesn’t mean you love your family any less. Stop being a martyr and take care of yourself so you can keep taking care of them. You got this. Some rando in the internet is rooting for you! :D

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