Odd_Ad_5639 OP t1_jadqrz3 wrote on February 28, 2023 at 6:28 PM

Reply to comment by HeatherKiwi in TIFU by cheating on my wife a second time by Odd_Ad_5639

It’s not completely about the money. It’s the whole environment.

I know that I completely ruined this family and it’s my fault. That doesn’t prevent me from giving my daughter the love and care she deserves.

She may probably decide to walk away from me at some point. I deserve it. Until then I can only give her the best upbringing I can.

I would go for split custody if I could but the wife is 100% leaving for her country so that won’t work

HeatherKiwi t1_jadr9va wrote on February 28, 2023 at 6:31 PM

People still split custody in ways if they live in separate countries. Heck you could even have her over summers/holidays. Your wife has a better bond with her per your post and you want to take your daughter away from her. At this point it sounds like you are just trying to be spiteful to your wife. Your daughter will most likely walk away from you. Honestly it's not upto you about what the environment will be better or not that's your wife's home country and she should know if it's safe or not or suitable for a toddler to live.

Odd_Ad_5639 OP t1_jadrztx wrote on February 28, 2023 at 6:35 PM

It split custody would work id go for it but I know that when my wife gets on the plane I’m never seeing her or my daughter ever again.

My daughter is young and has a natural bond with the mother. I need to make the decision based on her entire childhood, not just her current age.

My decisions are definitely not to spite my wife. I am extremely sorry about what I have put her through and the last thing I want is to put her through more pain but I need to take the emotion out of it all and focus on what I think is best for my daughter.

She may very well end up hating me. I deserve no less. I can’t control that but I can give her the best upbringing I can and then let her make her decisions when she is old enough

HeatherKiwi t1_jadsf05 wrote on February 28, 2023 at 6:38 PM

You aren't listening to any commentors. I highly doubt any judge will give you full custody when they hear you cheated on your wife when she had a baby and then gave her a STI while she is pregnant. Congrats on the future irreparable relationship with your daughter. May she have a good life with your wife and future sibling.

Odd_Ad_5639 OP t1_jadtcgu wrote on February 28, 2023 at 6:44 PM

I’m listening. I hear all the hate and I accept all of it. I know this is all my fault and I deserve to die alone.

I can only do what’s best for my daughter. If I end up alone it’s nothing more than what I deserve. Until then I hope I can do as much for my daughter as I can