LaHawks t1_j9v8h8f wrote
Reply to comment by Rekno2005 in TIFU by recommending a friend seek therapy by Rekno2005
As someone who has had the word "therapy" thrown at me by somebody who I thought was a friend and who had 0 idea how hard it is to find a decent therapist, you could not have done much worse. Women don't want a man to solve their problems, they want them to listen.
GrimsonMask t1_j9vcfyb wrote
The difficulties of finding a decent therapist doesn't not cancel the fact that you may need therapy..
Seeing a therapist doesn't mean you are crazy.
You just rejected a friend that wanted to help you.
« Women don't want a man to solve their problems, they want them to listen.»
Why not both?
Lowflyin t1_j9vdqms wrote
You sound like you need therapy..
emptybottleofdoom t1_j9vfr83 wrote
I probably need therapy. I also need someone to complain to.
mook1178 t1_j9viawd wrote
therapists are good for complaining to
emptybottleofdoom t1_j9vlei2 wrote
People are seriously downvoting me making two "I" statements? That says a lot more about them than it does about me.
DrDiddle t1_j9vd04p wrote
Dysfunctional women just want to rant at you and not hear any actual advice or feedback. That’s not all women.
Quantum-Reee t1_j9vefih wrote
I truly don’t understand that. I don’t understand why a person would explain there problems and then not want help or the answer to there problems. It just doesn’t make any sense.
LaHawks t1_j9vfb4e wrote
Have you ever heard how programmers use rubber ducks? When they come to a standstill with a coding problem, they explain the code line by line to the duck. By doing this, they usually find their mistake in the code and are able to rectify it.
Same concept.
DragonfruitOk6901 t1_j9vjt73 wrote
Find a rubber duck then.
Quit dumping your life story/trauma onto others who are openly ill-equipped to handle your shit, then consider them unfriendly for saying so. Friends can support you without being a pillar for you to lean on and use, and it's not everybody else's job to process things for you, that's why people get paid to do it.
emptybottleofdoom t1_j9vfmyd wrote
Hm, I was about to throw out something about the wanting to listen bit, but seeing that, maybe not...
She_Plays t1_j9vdf88 wrote
I'm not sure why you're getting downvoted - if someone is coming to you to offload/release mental pressure, you should always ask if they want an ear or advice. Although, if a man could solve my problems and I wanted advice I'd be down to listen lol.
Ashwagandalf t1_j9ves09 wrote
You're being downvoted because Reddit, but yes, there's something incredibly lazy and cruel (not to mention antithetical to therapy, which it waters down to the point of meaninglessness) about the blunt-force way therapy-speak is wielded in the TikTok era.
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