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Emergency_Bus_7989 OP t1_j9h1igk wrote

Reply to comment by Form84 in TIFU by telling my mom the truth by Emergency_Bus_7989

I am aware that what you're saying is very valid. I am aware that my ideas may change but I simply cannot see that happening. I believe (sometimes ignorantly) myself to be a very careful person, I like to think of what-ifs all the time, as a sort of preparation. Me returning to religion hasn't crossed my mind as a what-if, though. Although my talk with my mom has very much come over as a rash and sudden decision, my very first serious doubt of religion came about when I read a fictional book when I was 12. It has been very slowly and gradually eating at me that I cannot grow up like this. What seemed a few years ago like something I hoped to grow out of, in all perverted honesty, has now turned into a reality I have no choice but to embrace. The reality I speak of is not my belief or disbelief, it is the relationship between me and my family. I cannot and do not see my disbelief as something that may change. At least not yet, and because of that, I am afraid.

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FindingEmoe t1_j9kvfok wrote

I was extremely atheist and logical from 14 on I didn't believe in any god or anything I'm still very logical and the most logical thing is that "god" exists but you have to experience and see it for yourself and things will click

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MamaDee1959 t1_j9s5raw wrote

I feel so bad for you, because I know what it's like to want your parents' approval, (not due to religious beliefs in my case, but for other reasons). Are you in a position that you could move out on your own, because that sounds like about the only thing that you might be able to do now. If you are afraid of what your dad will say, you KNOW that at some point, your mom will HAVE to tell your dad, and that's when the other shoe will drop. (and maybe fly across the room and hit you in the head, like my mom did me--and that shit HURT!!)

Are you working at all? Could you and a few friends get a place together?? At least then, you could have some time to sort out your relationship with your parents, without the fear of being disowned, or put out, (which seems like what you might be afraid of. I would be). I don't know a lot about the Muslim Faith, even though I have a few relatives who belong to that Faith. I know in a lot of families that DO practice it, that the dad makes the rules, and they must be followed, or else. PLEASE be careful, and if you can go somewhere til things get sorted out, do it soon, so that your mom isn't stuck with this "secret" for too long. Good luck!

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