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FormerCockroach1 t1_j9es9ty wrote
Awww hun.
It was a matter of time if he's still closeted. I was accidently outed by my femme BF when I was much younger than you two are, and yes admittedly some chaos followed, but it's what I expected from my family - and it went over much better than I had ever pictured.
I think you should take him at face value when he says it isn't your fault and he'll handle the aftermath. All you can do now is support him through said aftermath. Remember, it was flirting with the inevitable anyways.
Support him through whatever happens. That's more than likely all he could ask for.
kalysti t1_j9ej1yd wrote
Maybe be a little more thoughtful about what you ask for, next time. Think about the worst consequences, and how you can avoid them.
Taikatohtori t1_j9eowqw wrote
I think going out on a date (30mins away) was definitely not unreasonable to ask, op shouldn’t have to hide himself. The one who should be thoughtful is the family friend.
Whane17 t1_j9eysuj wrote
Ohhhh I am so heartbroken for you! :(
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RidesFlysAndVibes t1_j9fy8bt wrote
What are the chances the family happened to be there at that time? Did you get an explanation as to why they were there?
boxer126 t1_j9g40uk wrote
I'm not sure this warrants an explanation? They were only half an hour away. I'd find it quite reasonable to run into family friends if I'm out and about only 30 mins away. Maybe if they went out somewhere 3 hours away it'd seem weird but the chances of running into friends of the family 30 mins away from home can be pretty high. Higher if your family is out-going and makes a lot of friends.
RidesFlysAndVibes t1_j9g4bnc wrote
It doesn’t warrant an explanation but I do find it quite unlikely. I’m not insinuating anything. Just a weird coincidence is all and had me curious.
boxer126 t1_j9g5tak wrote
Yeah, I get what you're saying but I run into family friends all the time when out with my family. I have kids and am involved with the community though, so it's not a rare coincidence for me, it's very much the norm. But running into someone 3 hours away would be a pleasant surprise.
Taikatohtori t1_j9ep7y7 wrote
You didn’t do anything wrong, it’s understandable your bf isn’t comfortable coming out at the moment, but it’s also understandable you want to go out and not have to be in secret. You should be supportive of your bf and hopefully the family friend will not out him, but you didn’t do anything wrong.