You are young, and figuring out how to control your impulses and make good decisions. Don't beat yourself up too much, just learn from it.

Stupid games/stupid prizes

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Thank you. It's definitely something I'm taking and learning from. Still hate I hurt a good person because of my own poor judgement.

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The biggest lesson here is to never cheat on your partner. Doesn't matter if it is romantic partner or work partner or whatever. Don't cheat on your partner. Not for any reason. You do not have the right to do that simply for your own convenience. What you did was not just a mistake, it was unethical.

You are young, but not too young to start thinking about things like ethics, morals, and principals. Start building your own code to live by. A good place to start is "Do to others as you would have them do to you." Having a code of ethics can help us not do stupid, selfish things that hurt others and ourselves.

I mean, I think it was more nuanced than that. I was always against cheating. I just feel I was manipulated and in turn, like if it was gender swapped people would say that, and I made a horrible decision because I was being weak-willed and naive that I am never going to do again. I can see the red flags in retrospect. Both in myself and my ex. And I plan to grow from that. That doesn't mean we as people don't think about ethics and morals when we mess up, though. That's the whole thing with guilt and growth. I don't think you're ever too young for those lessons.

Nuance means nothing when you cheat on a partner. Don’t justify it, learn from it.

I didn't justify it. I acknowledged i have morals and ethics. Nuance means a lot in every situation, actually. That's literally how growth works. Thinking about every nuance so you don't do it again.