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hottempsc t1_jabk730 wrote

Snooping through phones is a thing of the past. I hope you learned what you think you needed to know and move on for the better. No one needs that in their life.

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FigLow4974 t1_jacijw5 wrote

idk if it’s just me but like, i wouldn’t care ab a partner going through my phone. i have nothing to hide, and if we are close like that, it shouldn’t matter. but everyone has different boundaries, including OP and her boyfriend, and he didn’t seem to mind that much either about the snooping itself and more about the fact that she found out ab something he didn’t want her to.

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chainmailler2001 t1_jacp8yo wrote

I am with you on this. My wife and I both are open books with each other. We both know each others passwords. Her fingerprint lock is set to also recognize mine. We each know the passwords to each others email accounts. We both have GPS tracking turned on and shared on our phones so we each know where each other is. Neither of us snoops because we have no reason to but either of us could at any time.

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Alpha433 t1_jadit4p wrote

Snooping through the phone is a bit rough in my opinion, but immediately going off on the boyfriend, assuming the worst is an even bigger issue. If they lack the trust to actually talk about this stuff or broach the topic with more tact then it shows just much more time they need, or at the very least how much of a trust issue op has.

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FigLow4974 t1_jadjste wrote

Yeah I personally would’ve immediately asked to talk about the ice cream situation as soon as I heard about it. Letting the doubt and anxiety bubble up and then exploding randomly is a big issue OP needs to look into fixing.

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Alpha433 t1_jadkc34 wrote

Yup. I know people are all different and trust can be a funny thing, but handle it like an adult and don't sit there and assume the worst without even checking on it. At best they are saved by having an understanding partner like here, at worst they get into a massive fight and op ends up torpedoing a relationship because they couldn't handle a simple like an adult.

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Sumerian88 t1_jac2k6z wrote

Yeah I agree, it's such a huge breach of trust. I'd really have to think hard about whether I could stay with someone who snooped through my phone. Like could I ever trust them again to respect my privacy? Such a big deal.

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