KeyOutlandishness652 t1_j9hqeyk wrote on February 22, 2023 at 1:31 AM

Ngl your boyfriend sounds toxic. I’m not saying dump him but if he can’t help ease you through the pain then it’s not really a worthy attribute for boyfriend/husband material. When I was going through the same thing my mum was the person I talked to aswell as a therapist they each told me to find something positive each day ik it sounds cliche but it helped ease me into coming out of my shell. I also think the inviting your bf to one of your therapy sessions could help so your therapist can show him the ways of helping you through this and if he isn’t up to do that for you I think you might need to revaluate what’s best for your health

lunas2525 t1_j9id1yd wrote on February 22, 2023 at 4:27 AM

I dissagree it sounds like he doesnt understand her issues she is down so much she wants to dissappear she only surfaces far enough to get to normal some times. She doesnt just need therapy she needs hard core grief counseling and more intense therapy and i am gonna say if she wants her bf to remain at her side he needs to be a part of helping her stay up and she needs to let him in and help too.

SmokeCrib t1_j9ig967 wrote on February 22, 2023 at 4:56 AM

Yea fair I was just saying if I couldn’t share my burdens with my partner because of the way they might act I wouldn’t want that relationship like she shouldn’t have to lie about not going to class if she doesn’t feel well mentally

lunas2525 t1_j9ij0bz wrote on February 22, 2023 at 5:23 AM

From what it sounded like what she is feeling and going through is so far outside his realm of comprehension he cant properly deal.

Which is why i keep suggest he attends a few sessions of therapy with her so he can be pulled back in informed and opened up to being shared with otherwise it sounds like this relationship is gonna split he caught her lying and it caused him to shut down and close off. If he cant deal and open back up and talk and deal then a split is likely and with that she is gonna crash down further than before and this time she may choose to actually dissappear...