Submitted by sinnvviela_ t3_117kxpo in tifu
For reference, i'm F18, my boyfriend (M) is also 18.
We've been together for 2 years now, i decided i wanted to start having sex a while ago, i have always been safe, wearing protection, taking plan B if something happened, being extra informed about my menstrual cycle, etc.
Some weeks ago i decided i wanted to start birth control, i reunited courage and talked to my mother about it on saturday, at first she was very supportive and we even did research together, i was so happy because i thought my mother was finally being open and trustworthy, (she has always been protective and kind of conservative)
On sunday she randomly comes into my room and tells me she's dissappointed in me, i asked why and she told me she expected more of me, and she kinda made it clear that she thought less of me for having sex with my bf.
Today i went to the doctors appointment about birth control recommendations, she insisted to come along and was visibly annoyed the whole time, once the appointment was over, i told her i was going to hang out with my bf later, she didnt say anything and i went over to his house to order some food and just watch tiktoks.
She called the whole time asking what was i doing, what time was i coming home, etc, i'm being serious she was calling every 20 minutes, i just went home and now she told me that once she comes home from work she needs to talk with me and that she will make new rules and expects me to follow them.
Honestly this last days left me exhausted and wondering if i should just kept silent and do research by myself, i feel overwhelmed and judged by her all the time, this is hell.
(TL/DR:) I told my mother i wanted her advice on birth control, she's now dissappointed in me and i'm afraid this changed the way she thinks of me forever.