Submitted by Semi_Nerdy_Girl t3_119o6zn in tifu
To be fair, this has been a fuck up that’s been ongoing for 6 years and I only realized it this past weekend. I (48 f) have only ever been able to have orgasms with a vibrator my entire life. Nothing else has ever worked for me. Not PIV (penis-in-vagina intercourse), not manual stimulation, not oral. Nothing. But then, early on with my current partner (he’s amazing so no shade to him please), I noticed I was feeling these sort of pulsing contractions deep in my vagina every once in a while during PIV when he would take a break from thrusting. They felt to me like little tiny “aftershocks” … you, know… like when you have a really super strong O and your vag involuntarily twitches and pulses for a few minutes after the O subsides?? Well, it felt sort of like that, but very faint. I was like “OMG?! Did I actually have a tiny O??” Now, I didn’t feel a build up or release like I normally would with a vibe, but did feel that sort of muted contraction when we were still. So I chalked it up to thinking that must be what O’s feel like without a machine to trigger them and was very excited that I could actually cum without a vibe. I figured I’d learn how to make them better and stronger over time. But the thing is, we’ve been together for over 6 years now and they never, ever got any stronger and they were are very unpredictable. It was really odd, but whatever. I’m not going to turn down an O. My BF would ask if I came during sex and I’d be honest and tell him that I did when I felt that sensation. I’d call it a “blip” orgasm. (I’d like to note that we do incorporate toys, so I would also have what I would call a “regular O” too. So no worries about me on that end).
Anyway…. Cut to this past weekend and my guy and I are going at it and having a fun time and he pauses for a moment from thrusting and I can feel that same “blip” orgasm. I was thinking again that it was odd to feel the aftershocks without feeling the actual O, but whatever. Then he says “Holy shit… Can you feel how hard my dick is twitching? I’m trying so hard not to cum.” I was like …. what? Wait? WHAT???? I seriously had zero idea that the sensation I thought was emanating from my own body for the past 6 years was, in fact, HIS dick pulsing deep in my vag when he’d pause to try not to cum. FFS. I’m an idiot. I can’t believe I’m pushing 50, incredibly sex positive, well educated about sex & sexuality, and did NOT know what was happening with my own body. Doh! We both had a good laugh about it. The more you know, and all that. Very humbling experience.
Figured I’d post it here in the off chance anyone else reading this is as naive as me. Consider this my PSA about twitchy dicks.
TLDR: Thought I’ve been having tiny little O’s with my BF the past six years during pauses in PIV. Turns out it’s just his dick twitching and pulsing like mad inside of me when he tries not to cum.
Edit: I spelled out the acronym for PIV. Didn’t realize so many folks didn’t know what it meant. Though hat’s off to u/LordValcron for the suggestion of Partially Indecent Velociraptor. That cracked me up.