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IAmTheTrueM3M3L0rD t1_jdzk3fc wrote

Jesus the baggage on this post is immense, why would you date somebody in a 15+ year long relationship in the first place, also several questions about that relationship, why weren’t they married, was it a personal reason or a relationship reason? I don’t think you need to be married after 15 years of dating if you don’t want to be, but it would be important to understand why before you potentially fall into the same trap.

Secondly why would you leave your relationship of 15+ years for a woman you met 4 months ago, cheating in a relationship that long makes more sense to me (not that either make much sense but I can at least see that cheating is a lapse and a fall into temptation.

I think somebody being that non committal(and I don’t mean in the relationship sense I mean in the decision making sense) is a pretty big red flag, maybe there’s more to the story you don’t know

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[deleted] OP t1_jdzlgi0 wrote

I honestly don't think it's a trap. Neither of them ever wanted to get married, and in fact I didn't either. We are also in complete agreement about such issues (religion, marriage, children,...) and we discussed them at the beginning because it was a big step and these issues are important.

But yes, I see the point that entering into a relationship right after such a long relationship ended was not a good idea. But at that moment it was just overwhelming and we both wanted it, because it just felt right..

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