That is also a very good consideration. At this point I find the idea very painful, but I don't want to dismiss it so quickly and would rather have a little time to think about it, maybe understand more where this comes from.

Yeah, I already feel like 'the other one' when thinking about being in this love triangle.. But I don't know her, so its hard to imagine how she would think about all this..

Internet warriors.. I like that :) and thanks for the advice, another good one!