Ok but as someone pointed out below this is something adults should work on and by no means should they be putting the onus on others. Is she actively in therapy for this? I mean if not it’s fine I guess but this is the equivalent of “my mom always cleaned up after me so I don’t know how to clean”.

I just think myself and the other commenters are pretty surprised she (and you for that matter) are pretty dead set on this being your fuck up. From the outside it looks like someone complaining about a date you put a lot of work into because they refuse to work on eliminating childish habits. I mean if someone can’t eat anything at a farmers market you need some like machine learning algorithm to plan any kind of date that isn’t in guess chicken fingers and French fries…