LazarYeetMeta OP t1_jee9w8q wrote on March 31, 2023 at 11:52 AM

Reply to comment by JessieOwl in TIFU by going to a coffee shop. by LazarYeetMeta

For the context: I’m a guy, and I’m 19. She’s 22 and we’ve known each other since last September. It was also around 7:30 am when I came in, not the middle of the night. And yeah, I should’ve told her why I was there, but now that I know how she feels about it, I feel like telling her would just make it seem like I was trying to cover my ass or guilt her into doing something she’s not comfortable with, neither of which I want to do.

And thank you for the lifeboat bag suggestion, I’ll be using that one for sure.

hollypistachio t1_jeed82a wrote on March 31, 2023 at 12:23 PM

How close of friends are you, her reaction seems strange.

LazarYeetMeta OP t1_jeeearo wrote on March 31, 2023 at 12:33 PM

We’re pretty close, like I said she stayed with me in the hospital after I OD’d, and she’s very familiar with my mental health struggles. I don’t get her reaction either, but she’s allowed to have boundaries, even if I don’t understand why they’re there.

JessieOwl t1_jeemver wrote on March 31, 2023 at 1:40 PM

It can be both. She deserves boundaries, and she deserves context.

It’s not an excuse, it’s a reason. That doesn’t mean it’s okay, and you absolutely need to find external help and other people to lean on.

You’re right, it’s not fair to make one person feel guilty or responsible for your mental health, but it’s equally not fair to you- you need and deserve a whole team on your side.

Glad you liked the ‘lifeboat’ idea. It’s simple, but it really does work. Do that small thing for yourself, then do something bigger- ask for help. If you’re in education there will be a whole raft of services available to you. Use them! Get your money’s worth!

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